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Kintsugi: a theory of addiction self-repair

(This kintsugi article also available as a streamlined slideshow!)


The world breaks every one and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills.” – Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms

Every one of us is broken. But like kintsugi, the Japanese art of restoring chipped ceramics with gold lacquer, we can transform our weak points into strong, unique focal points.

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The underdog effect: 3 ways to prove bad guys wrong

The underdog effect in psychology says believing yourself to be an underdog can inspire lasting motivation to improve, fight, or otherwise topple.

In this article, I’ll define 3 common addiction bad guys, and how to use the underdog effect to dismantle the false beliefs associated with them.

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Hiding likes on your Instagram profile won’t help

Hiding likes on your Instagram posts is now an option.

According to them, “We tested hiding like counts to see if it might depressurize people’s experience on Instagram.”

Likely this pressure comes from people who are addicted to social media, social approval, and social status. But it won’t help.

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Banish social media jealousy with these 5 deep questions

Struggling with social media jealousy? I did for years before I started this blog. In this no-nonsense article, I’ll give you 5 questions (backed by science) to make the green pain go away.

“Our envy of others devours us most of all.” – Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

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What is a superstimulus and how do I avoid it?

A superstimulus is junk food, porn, hyperfast-and-bright video games, an all-round firehose of sugar you want to avoid before it gives your brain’s pleasure center too-high expectations. When vanilla ice cream doesn’t cut it anymore, you need birthday cake.

So how do you steer clear?

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