The how and the why of tech addiction recovery

Do you know why you’ve got tech addiction?
Or do you want another habit to add to the pile?

Changing your habits won’t change your life.

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It’s easy to blame the junk food manufacturer, yet many of us can eat cake without getting sick.

An ascetic expulsion of a superstimulus that hurt you shifts the blame and doesn’t fix the problem.

Competitors will arise.

Blockers (alone) won’t save you. A good blocker can only slow you down.

But it’ll always be a How, never a Why.

The how

Tech addiction can be a bad habit of overconsumption.
A scroll, click, or watch-binge.
Or do it once, then once every week from now.

So you can eat not to dullness.
You can read all my articles and try new things for years.
And they’re helpful… until they stop working.

This is no defensive ward for my mistakes, or for an article that doesn’t work for you.

It’s a warning.

If you never descry why you scroll, the next how to quit habit-change hint will be just that.
But the detective’s magnifying glass can’t replace the detective.

Introspection.

For How’s chemically clear the weeds in your garden, yet the chemical-resistant Why sticks.

and the why

Because you want to.
Because it’s normal and not bad.
Because you need to relieve the suffering.

Each new How, each new stint, uncovers a closer, truer Why.
And if you’re like me, it’ll take years before you find a How that lasts more than a few days.

“This one’ll be it!” Great! Try it! Even if it’s just a step, it’s a step.

But changing your habits won’t change your life.

Once the restrictions of accountability are gone, the habit chain unlinked, you’ll sink back into discontent.
The discontent will propel you to change, and you’ll pursue a prescription. Perhaps you’ll find me.

Pain impels. It may be the root of motivation.
So grab another recipe, another How, so long as you hurt, until your Why arrives.

of tech addiction recovery

As Hemingway said, we’re all broken.
Life breaks all of us, and it’s hard to unravel our core need. The aching chasm.

Friendships, love and validation, a positive identity, a worthwhile pursuit, beauty in an ugly world.

We’re aware something’s wrong.
And we always seem to find new solutions, this one correct and final, unlike the others.
Various How’s to satisfy the Why silhouetted in fog; like a shape in a cloud, we try to identify.

My kintsugi article suggests common shapes, but it’s long-winded and the seven core needs may not be all.

How’s motivate, but Why’s, the base of the pyramid, endure.
No matter what storms erode the higher layers, your Why (to quit) matches your Why (to consume).

Never forget, the pain of real or perceived lack is your Why.

Kintsugi - the seven core needs of Validation / Love, Excitement, Pursuit, Identity, Calm / Autonomy, Beauty / Awe, and Community.

Tech addiction recovery is

One day, you’ll see it.

What made you unhappy wasn’t the cake when you overate yet the first bite was frothingly precious.
It was your belief it would make you happy and whole.
So you sought it out, believing yourself lacking.

Want implies lack.
Lack is pain.
Pain must be released.

Get it straight.
Seductive, superficial sugar shams never satisfy.

Manufacuters mold where there is demand.
Because everything is marginal utility: novel and exciting before it crumbles into dust in the wind.

But once you clear away the dust, once you inspect with multiple magnifying glasses, once you know the cake is a lie and the weeds were planted, you discover…

Someone’s selling you snake oil
to cure the bite they gave you.
But who’s the sales driver: them or you?

Tech addiction: Oasis picture with quote: "What you crave is not the habit itself, but the change in state it delivers." - James Clear, Atomic Habits

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